Sex is great. It’s a way to physically connect with your partner(s) and it’s fun! However, there are times in life when you can’t or don’t want to have sex, and that’s totally normal. That just means physical intimacy with your partner(s) may look a little different! Here’s 6 things you can try:
Shower together
Now I don’t mean shower sex-I mean actually showering together. Slather soap onto your partner’s body, massage their shoulders with a sugar scrub, rinse the shampoo from their hair, sing along to a favorite playlist. If you typically shower together and those showers have lost that spark, take a step back. Try to see what you saw when you first fell in love with them. Admire their beauty and their personality. Tell them what you love about them as you wash them.
Give each other massages
Grab that fancy lotion and turn down the lights! Ask your partner(s) what spots could use a little love and pay extra attention to the places they carry tension. Be sure to communicate with them about what does or doesn’t feel good as you go.
Cuddle
It sounds simple, but cuddle up with your partner(s) and watch your favorite show or play a game! Just be sure to keep this time distraction free without the expectation of sex.
Write a letter
That’s right, get out a piece of paper and an envelope and write your partner(s) a letter. Whether you choose to write out a perfectly poetic love letter or the erotic fantasy you want to get up to later is up to you. Anything genuine and heartfelt is a great start, just be sure you’re on the same page as your partner(s) if you’re doing this together.
Have a spa day
However your partner identifies, they deserve a little pampering. As long as everyone is comfortable, having an at-home spa day can be a great way to increase physical touch while helping your partner feel good! Do their hair, makeup, nails, or put on matching face masks! Just put on some good music and get out that nail polish!
Little acts of kindness
It may seem too simple to be true, little acts like making your partner(s) a cup of coffee or picking up their favorite snack from the store can do wonders to increase your closeness as a couple. Don’t take those little things you do for granted. Your partner won’t either.
How are some other ways you increase intimacy with your partner? Share in the comments below!
